Richard Rohr says...and I totally agree!

CONTEMPLATIVE PRAYER The false self is your psychological creation of yourself in space and time. It comes from your early conditioning, family, roles, education, mind, culture, and religion. The false self is who you think you are! But thinking doesn’t make it so. The false self dies and passes away. Yet it is the raw material through which you discover your True Self in God. The True Self is not created by anything you have done right or wrong. It is never about requirements; it’s about relationship—the quality and capacity for relatedness. This lays the foundation for contemplative prayer. The false self will say prayers but the True Self is a prayer and looks out at reality from a different pair of eyes larger than its own. This is why in Ephesians it says "pray always" (6:18). We pray always whenever we actin conscious and loving union with God, which eventually can be all the time—even in our sleep!